Top 10 Top 10s

10 Ways To Make Change Less Scary and More Possible Found on dumblittleman.com

Top 10 Reasons to Exercise Regularly (Besides Losing Weight) Found on lifehacker.com

10 Remarkable Ways Meditation Helps Your Mind Found on spring.org.uk

10 wise choices to skyrocket your happiness Found on thechangeblog.com

10 Magical Effects Music Has On the Mind Found on spring.org.uk

10 tens you can do to become happier, scientifically proven Found on lifehacker.com

10 Ways to reduce stress at work  Found on dumblittleman.com

10 Ways To Be Happier at Work Found on spring.org.uk

Sleep Deprivation: The 10 Most Profound Psychological Effects Found on spring.org.uk

10 one-minute time hacks that will make you more productive Found on lifehack.org

Bonus:

10 Ways Journaling Can Improve Your Life Found on lifehack.org

Top 10 Ways to Trick Your Brain Into Doing What You Want  Found on lifehacker.com

10 Uncommon, Alternative Relaxation Techniques to Reduce Stress by Alex Dolin  Found on noomii.com

Wednesday Links: Count down with me

10 Ways To Be Happier at Work by Psyblog

9 Reasons Why Church Leaders Should Read the Daily News by Thom Rainer

8 Things to Remember When Everything Goes Wrong by Marc and Angel

Six Unconventional, Scientific Ways to Be Happier by Lifehacker


5 Ways To Cope With Workplace Stress by Dumb Little Man

4 Ways Mindfulness Meditation Benefits So Many Conditions by Psyblog

3 Ways to Reduce Anxiety and Depression by 

Melissa Satti

(In) 2 minutes a day, reduce stress, everyday by Harvest Review Blog

One Thing You Can Start Doing Now to Instantly Improve Your Marriage…… by Rhett Smith

Ignite Speaker at Demand Success Conference

Demand Success 2014, a premier two-day marketing and public relations conference hosted by Capitol Communicator sponsor Vocus, will take place June 5 and 6 in the Washington, D.C. metro area. With only a handful of speakers announced, the conference already boasts a star-studded roster of keynotes including actor Adrian Grenier, best known for his starring role in the Emmy-nominated HBO series “Entourage,” and Avinash Kaushik, digital marketing evangelist at Google. Joining the speaker lineup are marketing experts Shonali Burke Consulting, Inc. President and CEO Shonali Burke, renowned author and branding strategist Laura Ries, and The Javelin Group President and CEO Jeffrey Bliss.

The full Demand Success 2014 speaker roster will be announced in the months leading up to the June conference. Sessions will include discussions on marketing automation, lead nurturing, native advertising, public relations, digital journalism, content marketing, visual media, social video, mobility and measurement.


New to Demand Success will be a special Ignite: Business Revolution, which will feature 10 speakers, including me, discussing ideas to revolutionize or change business.  Presenters will share their personal passions using 20 slides that auto-advance every 15 seconds for a total of just five minutes.

Demand Success 2014 will be held at the Gaylord National Resort and Convention Center in National Harbor, MD, and, stated Vocus, offer top tips from some of the best and brightest thought leaders in marketing on brand awareness and lead generation in the digital era. Current Vocus customers who register for this event can attend a pre-conference training on June 4.  For complete conference information on speakers and registration, visit the conference website.

Questions to live by

I recently read One Question by Ken Coleman, New York Time Best-Selling Author and emcee of Catalyst conference. This book is a “best-of” all the interviews Coleman has done with some of the best Christian leaders in America. I have decided to list some of the most powerful questions these leaders have lived by and the questions they challenge others to ask themselves:

John Maxwell- What are you passionate about? What are you good at?

Marcus Buckingham – What is the best way you learn? How can you apply this principal to both your areas of strength and weakness?

Peter Guber- Are you truly connecting with people or just trying to sell something? Are you being your authentic self with your clients? Are you opening up to your customer’s hearts before their wallets?

Randall Wallace- If you are telling a story, does the story move you? In life are you trying to find your message first or your audience first?

Seth Godin- Are you waiting for opportunities? Or are you ready for them?

T. D. Jakes- What is my vision? Where do I see things that others do not see?

Blake Mycoskie- How can I start small to follow my dream?

Personailizing

Personalizing is taking something personally that may not be personal. When one takes everything personally, stressful events feel like consequences of something one personally did…they feel they somehow deserve the consequences. Although, someone who is blunt may express their opinion about something, as they may always do, but someone who takes things personally may be hurt by this person’s words, even when the blunt person did not intend to hurt the other person.

The first tip for personalizers is to realize that not all set backs are the end of the world.
If you feel rejection, that is okay, even normal. Although, we need to keep in mind that this feeling of rejection does not mean that you are never going to be successful one day.
Remember that negative feedback can be useful to improve work, not to point out all of your mistakes. You are talented and skilled!



Second, be kinder to yourself. Give grace to your own mistakes and imperfections. If you can learn to be nicer to yourself about your imperfections, you won’t automatically jump to feeling attacked when other people make comments.

Next, it is important to accurately label emotions you are feeling. Emotions drive thoughts and behavior. Emotions often trigger personalizing. When you can label your emotions accurately you are able to better manage thinking and behavior. Then the next step is to practice. Imagine situations in which feelings of rejection are likely. Now put yourself in that situation. What should you do or think about in this situation? After having this imaginative practice, now it is time to learn through doing. Experimenting through real life situations.

The root cause of this personalization is often due to attachment anxiety. Personalizers often want to  please everyone. They want to be accepted and loved by everyone. The solution is to attempt to be warm to people but maintain better boundaries. It is not your job to please everyone.

I hope these tips help. Remember you can work towards healthy lifestyle change. If you or someone you know would like some life coaching in this area please contact me.