Wednesday Holiday Links

Wednesday Link List

Here are this weeks’ links:

1. Stress, depression and the holidays: Tips for coping by Mayo Clinic

2. Home for the Holidays: Tips for overcoming holiday anxiety and stress by WebMD

3.  Holiday Stress and Suicide Risk: How You Can Help by AACC

4. Tips for parents on managing Stress During the Holidays by APA

5. How to Manage Stress During the Holidays by Alex Dolin

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Question Time….

How do we go about making church, a family ordeal? More family oriented?
It has been my experience that teenagers stay at church when their families (their parents) are committed, involved with, or at least encouraging their teens to go regularly.
The past two years, several teenager have left our ministry. Many of them did not have too much agianst us or our ministry, they simply did not have the encouragement from parents and other family to continue going.
When their parents quite going or started slacking off, slowly they began to follow suit.

So I am asking my blog audience for some ideas, suggestions, on how wto connect with parents and keep the entire family churched…

I wish to work my way out of a job

In a perfect world, there would be no need for a “youth minister.”
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Can you imagine the power of an effective godly family?
Picture mom and dad sharing the Word of God with the kids after the dinner meal around the dinner table everyday.
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Good Biblical training and teaching starts at home not the youth minister’s office or youth room at the church.
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My job as a youth minister is not just about helping and leading students to Christ, but when possible, I help parents train their students. I give parents resource to help them. I spend time with the old guys too.

Parents sometimes rely on youth ministry too much. Just dropping off the kids and then leave. It is sad, but it is where our culture is at today. I pray that parents stay for church too.

I pray that youth ministry could rely on parents, not the other way around. I pray for godly parenting. Here are some great parenting links:

Technology and teenagers (part 3)

Something really gross and concerning is that teenagers are taking nude pictures of themselves on cell phones and exchanging them with other teenagers’.

It is called “Sexting” it is gross, nasty, undignified, and just sinful. “I think the girls, they just want to get their attention and usually it works,” said an eighth grader. Another student in the same grade said, “Sometimes they’ll say, ‘Send me a picture of your boobs’ or ‘Send me a picture of your butt.'”

It may seem wrong and inappropriate to us, – heed this warning- students today are saying it “is just a part of dating”

It is not just cell phones but also websites.

“A lot more girls are aggressive,” said Ray, 18. “Some girls are crazy and they are putting themselves out there.”

Candice Kelsey, a teacher from California, said some teenage girls think they have to be provocative to get boys’ attention. As a result, they will send photos they hope their parents never see.

Parents Should Talk To Teens About Dangers of Sending Pictures of Themselves.

There is no limit to where those pictures could go next…you send a text message and it goes off to world wide web. This is dangerous.


Technology and teenagers (part 1)

Many teens spend 30 hours a week on ‘screen time’ during high school
Generation Y and younger, are around media and screens (TV, computer, phones, etc) much more than any other generation.
There are a lot of reasons for this
and there is a lot to say about this. Today I am not going to mention a lot of commentary, because I am on my way to FL for vacation, but I want to post and supply you with articles and resources relating to this. I will post more information about this later.

For parents – guide to help parents understand internet

Recommended reading – Youth Culture 101, Walt Mueller

A lot of research related to the Internet and Youth.

Have a great day,